Negative thoughts haunt us if we want to avoid them. It is a continual and persistent struggle with our minds to eliminate negative thinking, which can attract negative things into our lives.
In the negative thoughts section, we are all specialists and we excel at this topic. We have the tendency to predominantly bring negative thoughts to the surface when we have a few minutes of silence. When memories invade us, they are often negative.
In the mindfulness of the expert Dana Predu, when negative thoughts invade our existence, we can apply 3 simple steps so that the domino effect does not work from a simple thought:
Notice the thought, observe the direction of thought. It is a habit that the mind continues to repeat. You can write in the journal the pattern of thought and think.
Do not judge the thought, do not suppress it. Just notice and bring your presence to what is happening now.
Dana Predu: I urge you to cultivate your ability to choose a thought to the detriment of another. Aware and choose!
When our partner does something that usually triggers a response to battle or flight (that is, make a comment that we perceive as critical or embarrassing, but is not understood as such), we can react more calmly and not in a way that leads to unnecessary combat. A technique of mindfulness that you can apply is focussing on breathing.
“As you observe the thoughts triggered by the amygdala, move your attention to breathing. Every time you notice that you are blocking, turn your attention to breathing and continue to notice until it passes. In mindfulness, emotions are not wrong or bad, but if the reaction is not appropriate or useful to the situation, then it is better to let it pass. Try to focus on your breath, remarking again where the mind is. Bring it gently and kindly to your focus point. This technique is important to you and can bring you multiple benefits. You can also avoid other negative or destructive situations that arise from your battle or flight responses and save you from the harmful effects of prolonged stress in the body, “explains Dain Predu.
What are you doing when you’re tired?
If we look at a small child, we can easily identify when he’s in a state of fatigue: he begins to cry, he easily upsets himself, he is irritable, nobody and nothing can please him. Here parents, grandparents, educators and parents create all conditions for rest and energy recharge.
“We as adults have learned in time to repress or temper such states and begin to hide our fatigue. Whether we call caffeine, sweets, perhaps with energy drinks, we try to continue our daily tasks. Our body may be quite tired for rest, but our mind still works. We think and worry about all the things we have to do until the deadlines are near, “says trainer Dana Predu.
How do you react when you’re tired?
We hide the fatigue from those around us or from us, but just as when we are small, our mood is changing. Maybe we do not cry with crocodile tears, or we do not crawl in the middle of the store, but the mood changes.
“Fatigue can result in low compassionately (for us and others), a bad judgment, and when it gets really bad, we have more chances to have accidents. And yet, we do not see these mood swings, we ignore them, and eventually drink caffeine to stay awake until we crash. We have become so good to hide our fatigue that we can not even tell when it is obligatory to rest. Over time, this way of living will exhaust us. We will inevitably lose the feeling of joy and tranquility. When we are tired, the world gets black and gray shades. But, by slowing down and paying attention, we can begin to see the beauty of life again, “said trainer Dana Predu.
Listen to your body and mind!
If we remain alert to the state of presence, we can hear those subtle signals in our bodies and minds that tell us that it is time to rest. For example, I can decide today that I want to become healthier by paying attention to eating, reducing unhealthy habits or the addictions I have. I can cultivate a balance in my life through mindfulness.
“These decisions are often taken in days when we have low energies, low provisions, or when we receive negative comments from our closest ones. You can invent every day the way you want and need. Find the resources to decide what’s right for you, not because others have told you. For example, I decide to eat healthy not because my good friend told me it was time but because “I want to start eating more carefully”, “I know it will be good for me.” Most of the time, when we make health plans from a place of self-rejection, we often place unrealistic goals for ourselves. It means that we are unlikely to achieve them and even less likely to enjoy the experience during the change, “concludes the expert in mindfulness Dana Predu.