Mistress. What is she? The mistress status has evolved a lot, over the centuries. Once upon a time, it was a stigma, almost no one is surprised today.
The only thing that can remain the same is the suffering of the deceived woman. Because lying hurts, for centuries.
What does she have and I don't have? A title of a well-known song. What does a husband send in the arms of another woman? Do you neglect? Don't you listen to him anymore? You don't understand him anymore? Maybe yes, dear woman. You may not even have time for all this.
But read this letter. The letter of a mistress. And maybe you will understand a few things.
"Most women would describe me as a bastard, a destroyer of marriages, but I think I'm a kind of 'dressing up' for their relationships. If your husband is hurt, I'm just a temporary patch to help him.
I've been seeing 'Big Bear' for seven years. He is a successful 11-year-old married surgeon living in a Chicago villa with his wife and two children. 'Big Bear' bought me an apartment just three kilometers from his house.
I have never seen myself as 'the other woman', especially since the relationship is so long. But I have the gift of turning lemon into lemonade. So I thought I'd help married women who want to understand why they cheat on their spouses.
Believe it or not, this is more than sex. Men want their wives to be mothers, friends and therapists. Be the woman he fell in love with before the wedding, she fell in love! Big Bear's wife is a great mother to her children, but she is a friend, a therapist and a terrible 'mother' to her husband. Believe it or not, most of the time I spend with 'Big Bear' we do not have sex. We listen to jazz, drink wine and discuss the news. I enjoy every second I spend with 'Big Bear', knowing that I will disappear when his wife makes the decision to change. When he leaves, I'll meet another 'injured' man who needs a temporary dressing.
The best way to make women like me disappear is to take my advice. But one more thing: the advice only applies if your husband has married you because he loves you. It is important to know why she chose to marry you, "writes the mistress in the open letter she posted on the Internet!