We're alone programming, no one else. A familiar psychologist tells us how important and valuable this is what we do every day, do not give it the right value, but can control our lives. We are energy, and we attract exactly what we are emitting.
Choose your words carefully in everyday life. They build, they collapse, you attract what you say, the word is energy, it is the energy creator. Explanations of psychologist Laura Maria Cojocaru.
Alone, we are programming, nobody else. The words we are uttering to communicate represent 7% of the message, the rest of the message being transmitted non-verbal (body posture) and paraverbal (voice rhythm and tone).
However, the words we use are extremely important in communicating with others as well as ourselves; and how what happens around us begins with what is happening inside of us, it is very important to first examine the influence of words on one's own person.
In the opinion of the well-known psychologist Laura Maria Cojocaru, our brain stores tens of thousands of words learned over the course of life, stores their meanings, and all the possible significance we have built over time for each word. In this sense, every word that our brain recognizes has a whole story behind it, a sort of inner "film" that triggers and unfolds very quickly in the unconscious when we use it.
"Depending on the significance we gave in the time of that word, according to the custom made to incline more towards one of the possible meanings, we will react and behave as such. For example, if we use the word "flower", a person can trigger the image of a red rose – as a symbol of love, then feel love and embrace his partner. Another person, when using the word "flower," can trigger the image of a flower field, the state of relaxation, the desire for a vacation, and even start looking for a place to go for a few days. For another person, the word "flower" can trigger a state of tension, remembering the social requirement to offer flowers on certain occasions, "explains psychologist Laura Maria Cojocaru, president and founder of the Somato-Integrative Linguistic Neuro-Programming Institute (INLPSI).
Words have energy
Moreover, the specialist thinks that we can talk about the energy of words in the sense that they trigger emotions within us, and emotions trigger a behavioral reaction that implies a certain quantity and quality of energy.
"Therefore, it is important to see what kind of words we use in our minds when: we set our goals, motivate, mobilize, encourage, forgive, love us; we propose something important to us. Depending on our inner speech about ourselves, we will experience an emotional cumulation that will lead to behavior and result, "says psychologist Laura Maria Cojocaru.
We can "program" our minds to communicate more effectively
A concrete approach to working with the set of inner words used to achieve the desired results is the approach to linguistic neuro-programming ("programming" the mind by language). It works precisely with the inner structure of the words we use about ourselves and about the important aspects for us.
"Before being an effectively applied science, NLP highlights how our brain and psyche work. We can ignore this aspect and let it work at random (because it works anyway) or we can learn how to consciously use it for our benefit. The words in our minds on which we remain with fixed attention create a real behavior that corresponds to the inner "film", because where our attention is, there is the result. By changing the words, so the direction of attention, we change the result, "concludes psychologist Laura Maria Cojocaru, president and founder of the Institute of Neuro-Programming Linguistic Somato-Integrative (INLPSI).